I talked to a horrible soul during my sophomore year of college. We’ll refer to him as “The Chameleon” from now on, because he would transform before my eyes. He has the ability to become a different person in a matter of seconds. I was too blinded by false emotions, to notice this early on. The chameleon resembles a con-artist because they choose to sell you dreams that they have no intention of fulfilling. For that year, I thought I was the only girl when in reality…I was the Thursday Girl, and he transformed into the perfect guy for a different girl each day of the week. Yes, Ladies and Gentlemen…this fool tried to “John Tucker” me! Good luck to girls Friday-Wednesday, I hope y’all got out of that mind-screw! *Kanye Shrugs* You live and you learn. But it hurts less once you realize the person you fell for wasn't real, it was just a mask he uses to play innocent bystanders.
There’s a difference between a guy that strives for success, and a guy that uses others to carry him there. The Mountain Climber attempts to use you to get what he wants out of life, not including you. You’ll notice that he’s a bit shallow, and that labels and appearance mean far too much to him. He doesn’t want to know your heart and soul…he wants to know your connections. #thelieshetells
The guy I’m currently dating has a bad tendency of disappearing when he’s stressed. Now this could be a warning sign, or it could be my trust issues hindering me from committing to a relationship; either way i’ll post about it. We've addressed this issue, and he’s “working on it” but the memories and questions still replay in my head. The Hide and Go Peek Guy vanishes for a week and then magically reappears. The ONLY problem with this is that during that week apart he’s peeking elsewhere. He shouldn't just love you every other week…. You deserve way more than that!*snaps in Z formation*
TLC and the Children of Destiny were correct, No Scrubs because they can’t pay your bills bills bills! I don’t believe in being a Gold Digger, but I support being a GOAL DIGGER. Lol When I was younger I had a bad tendency of dating wannabe thugs…who were actual thugs. Maybe Wale was right…”Every college girl wants a thug!” They had no hopes, dreams, or aspirations in life. I don’t know what I found interesting about them, I was just captivated by hoodlums. About a week ago, *schmoney dances* I was on snapchat and saw an ex of mine pouring lean into pineapple soda! *face palms* There’s something about a bad boy that makes good girls chase them; and it’s disgusting. So STOP that!
This guy is the opposite of the mountain climber. At least the Mountain Climber wants success, this loser is OK with being a LOSER! #thatsgross The Quicksander not only has no goals in life, BUT attempts to bring you down with him. #howdareyou They tend to belittle your aspirations, and question your ability to achieve them. This toxic energy in your relationship can be damaging. The Quicksander will compliment you, then insult you until he spins a twisted web of insecure love that you’re entangled in. I think it’s beautiful when someone is able to not only believe in your dreams, but believe in you. Type A Females dream of man that is attracted to drive! One day Type A’s…One Day! *snaps and twirls*
I’m a Type A Female, so I tend to get what I want, and over power people. (yes I know, it’s a flaw I need to work on #growthneeded). I don’t want to rule the guy I’m dating, that’s not attractive! I’m frequently told that my presence is intimidating, but if i intimidate you, I don’t want to date you. The Femi-Man is extremely passive, and yearns for the female to take control. They often expect you to initiate everything. Yes, I’m strong and independent, but I expect the same from you. Be confident and approach a Type A Female. I’m not saying that guys should always make the first move, I’m saying that I’m not attracted to a man who wouldn’t. *twirls away*
My prom date was a great guy….but I think we just brought out the ugly in each other. We met at a transitional phase in my life, and I feel like he was one of the few people to see my meltdown. Looking back on that time, I start to question his sincerity. I respect him and think he’s a great guy…I just think I was there to boost his ego when needed. I think he often took advantage of my feelings towards him, and in effect treated me like crap. I was a back-up option to him, because to him I would never be good enough. My prom date never openly said this, it was just revealed through his actions. Ladies…you are NOT a back-up option, and you shouldn’t settle for second place, no matter how attractive he is. The moment you let him treat like a back-up you’re no longer in the running, because you’ll never be good enough for first place.
This emotion filled man will entice you with his ability to scream his love for you, but you don't feel the same way. When I was younger I dated a lovesick puppy. It was great...until he started to discuss our future together and mentioned children. I want children, but at this age I think of pregnancy as the plague. It's contagious and everyone is doing it. I'm sure love is great, and maybe one day i'll be lovesick, but I refuse to settle out of desperation. You can't date a Lovesick Puppy because you want love. You owe it to him to let him go, if not its bad karma and you can't complain when you date a chameleon next.