Your GPA does NOT define you. You are much more than a number. I feel like we get lost in this point system, when in reality…it doesn’t matter! *snaps in Z formation* Now don’t get me wrong. You need to work hard. You need to strive to get great grades. But in no way whatsoever does your GPA make you a different person. Freshman year is rough as hell. And everyone responds to the hardship in a different way. If you excel, then great! I snap and twirl in honor of your world domination! *snaps and twirls* BUT if not, do NOT let your freshman year GPA get you down. Do NOT quit! Take a moment to refocus and find your center. Learn what study environment YOU learn best in, and then takeover the mother-freaking world!
I got lost in the smoke and lights of college during my freshman year. I got lost in the dream and image I had of my college experience. I was surrounded by nothing but toxic souls….and I got lost. Looking back, I’m a little disgusted by who I was. You see when you first get to college, there are tons of people who want to tell you who are, and who you should be. The funny things about that is that they know absolutely NOTHING about you. I let someone who knew nothing about me define me. I let them tell me that I wasn’t good enough. And then worst of all, I actually started believing it. I believed the lies they tried to force-feed me. I let broken people try to break me. I hated it, but it needed to happen. I needed to get lost. I needed to lose the person that I was to make room for the person that I’m meant to be. Sometimes you have to get lost. Sometimes you have to breakdown. Sometimes you have to soul-search. You only get one freshman year. Allow yourself to get a little lost…after the pain passes it’s a beautiful thing!
Y'all….I love the person I am today. And for some reason me saying that makes others real uncomfortable. But there is NOTHING wrong with loving yourself. You will be tested freshman year, and if you don’t learn to love yourself, you may fail. Fall in love with the person you are so that no one else has the chance to define you.
College is about learning to adapt to change. It’s about letting go of what makes you comfortable, for a chance to discover what was meant for you. Embrace the change.
How another person feels about you is NONE of your business. *snaps in Z formation* This is a brutal lesson to learn, but it is needed. Your job is to be yourself, spread positive energy, and dominate the world. Your job is NOT to mold yourself into the person that others want. So if you read to the “6 Types of Friends to Avoid”, you’ll probably remember “The Envious Witch”. She was the toxic friend that tried to bring everyone down with her. Well, she does this thing where she doesn’t like you and she’ll talk badly about you, but then gets annoyed and offended when she founds out that you don’t like her. #literallyicannot LOL Like this girl will go on a rant to a mutual friend about how horrible of a person I am, but then expect me to greet. Girl….we have nothing to discuss, we are not going the same places in life, we are not friends! *snaps in Z formation* College will reveal the haters; notice them, ignore them, then twirl away.
I spent the summer after my sophomore year crying. Lol it’s embarrassing to admit now, but very true. But that horrible boy was a lesson that I needed to learn. I needed to learn my worth. I needed to realize that not everyone is worth your time and greatness! *Twirls*
So a friendship that I’ve had since high-school is ending, and I don’t know how I feel about it yet. There was no betrayal, or screaming match; there was no gossip or a series of unfortunate events. I think we’re just done. You see she dated one of my guy best friends for the majority of our friendship, and they’ve recently parted way. But what I failed to realize was the she saw me as an accessory to him. So when their relationship failed, our friendship had to. And I know that break-ups suck. And I know that she’s hurting. And I know that as a friend you should always try to be there. But the most important lesson I learned while in college is: if a person or situation doesn’t make you happy, then you need to get out of it. She chose to correlate the pain she was feeling with me. She chose not to be a great friend. She chose to end our friendship. And now I’m choosing to accept it. I refuse to be punished for things I haven’t done. You must be able to let go of the things, situations, and people who don’t truly make you happy.
I’m sorry, but someone has to tell you. That expensive diploma will not pay your bills on it’s own. You actually have to network to get a job. So yes…you actually have to talk to people. *kanye shrugs* You must study hard, but network harder. Become cordial with your professors. Yes…they may seem like the devil around finals, but there is a reason that they are where they are. Everyone knows somebody, that knows somebody that knows the cousin of someone who may be able to get you a job…so keep your eyes open!
My favorite college story comes from a random night surrounded by semi-strangers. So freshman year a bunch of us were laying around a dorm room bored. We heard the noise from the train station, and randomly decided to chase. We split up into two cars…and decided to chase the train. Well we chased the train all the way to Dallas. For that hour and a half ride we were free. We laughed and got to know each other as we raced the other car to a Denny’s. Yes…we drove all the way to Dallas to eat Denny’s. But it was great! When we got back we all went our separate ways. I don’t keep in touch with any of them but for that moment it was bliss.
Procrastination is an illness. You must learn that if you keep putting off your school work, it will never get done. You must also realize that everyone around you learns information in a different way. If your best friend can put off studying until hours before a test and get an A, then yay! *snaps and twirls for them* But if you try to do the same, you may not make it until graduation. Figure out the best way for you to study…and do it!