By: Pia Taylor
And three years ago I went through one of the biggest break-ups of my life. Here’s the thing, everything was going great for years, it was everything I ever wanted.
But it was also leaving me heavy.
And overweight, in fact.
This relationship was different than most. I didn’t even realize I was in it until I took a step back a few years ago and really reflected on my life in its entirety.
This relationship wasn’t with a person, it was with an unhealthy lifestyle.
A lifestyle that revolved around nutrition-less food. And lots of it.
You see, food is a wonderful, magical thing. It’s used to celebrate just about everything.
It’s your birthday? *Commences cake slicing*
Oh, congratulations you graduated! *Goes out to dinner*
Let’s watch a movie. *Eats popcorn*
I’m so stressed and upset. *Finishes tub of Ben & Jerry’s*
Let’s watch TV. *FOOD NETWORK*
See my point? It’s everywhere. And although food is bae, I was abusing its delicious power. Eating WHATever I wanted, WHEN ever I wanted, and howEVER much I wanted. I had zero regard for how it was affecting my body. As long as it tasted good, I ate until I was beyond full. And did it again and again day after day.
It was just a temporary satisfaction, but I knew I could treat my body better. It does so much for me, the least I could do is fuel it with proper nutrition, right?
So I did what I had to do.
I called it off. I did the breaking up that was so, so hard to do.
I left that toxic relationship for something much, much better: A healthier lifestyle. And let me tell you, it was the best decision I ever made.
You learn a lot about yourself after such a dramatic breakup, here are a few of the gems I’ve learned along the way:
So here’s the thing, I’ve been overweight most of my life. It wasn’t until right before my freshman year of college that I decided to make a change and lose the sixty pounds necessary to get down to a healthy weight. Prior to the weight loss I had this pre-conceived notion that losing weight meant life would be magical and skinny and full of rainbows and bikinis… what’s wrong with that mindset? I associated my weight with my being. But that’s apples and oranges! Your being: your intelligence, your goofy laugh, the way you get excited over the little things; THAT has nothing to do with the number on the scale. Happiness starts from within, and is absolutely weightless. Gain more of it each day, no matter where you are on your fitness journey!
Let me tell you something, working out isn’t always as fun and glamorous as some of those cute little youtube workout videos make it seem. It’s hard work. It is a WORK out after all. But something I noticed is that after every workout, whether I felt like going to the gym or not, I never regretted it. Discipline on the daily to reach your goals beats regret any day. Sure there are downfalls along the way, nobody’s perfect, but an honest effort is key.
Sir Yung Nation said it best, and I quote
“Work, Work. Don’t Stop”
News flash: It’s okay to treat yoself. No need to clutch your pearls honey, it’s true! I still enjoy my food weaknesses like burgers, sopaPIAs (see what I did there.. because my name is… nevermind) and pound cake, BUT instead of those things being my main boo they’ve been demoted being my side pieces.
It’s for the best, really.
Plus, cake just tastes better when you’ve worked for it. Just don’t eat the cake every day of the week. I know that’s the dream, but unless you have the metabolism of a hummingbird I suggest you back away slowly.
Love you. A Lot. And don’t let yourself forget it.
Healthy isn’t one size fits all, it’s one size fits YOU. It’s too easy to get caught up with society’s definition of physical beauty. Why not be in charge of your own definition of beauty? Trust me, I know that’s a lot harder than it sounds. Between television and social media, it’s difficult not to start comparing yourself to those that society praises physically. I admit I get caught up in it too at times; those moments when my flaws become magnified in my own eyes because of society’s point of view. But just because you’re apart of society doesn’t mean society has to be apart of you.
So stay in your lane, don’t weave through everyone else’s. It only leads to pointless comparisons that prevent you from reaching you’re full potential. Your healthy won’t look like my healthy or your best friend’s healthy or that model in the magazine’s healthy. It’s unique. YOUnique. Own it!