No seriously…who are you? Have you taken the time to figure that out yet? Are you a dreamer? Are you a free-spirit? Are you a Type A control freak? Do you want to take over the world? Do you aspire to inspire? WHO ARE YOU? The truth is, that there is NOTHING wrong with not knowing who you are. However, there is a problem with committing to someone before you figure yourself out. How do you expect someone to love you, when they don't know who you are. They don't know who you are because YOU don't who you are! *snaps in Z formation* That isn't fair to your future partner, and it isn't fair to you! You get one life, don’t you want to discover who you were meant to be? You owe that to yourself. We’re young, we've spent 18 years being who our parents told us to be. Then we spent 4 years being who our university wanted us to be. It is finally our turn. You get to be your own person. You get to explore your own wants and desires. You get to find your own beliefs, and challenge yourself to grow. Become an "I" before you seek a "We"! I’m not saying that your mate will alter you, and I’m DEFINITELY not saying love hinders growth. I’m just saying that sometimes you have to be alone to find out who you truly are.
I sing love songs to myself. No seriously, I stare in the mirror and belt out Crazy In Love, while i'm in a face mask and robe. Lol I think it’s necessary. I think it’s necessary to love yourself so much that sometimes a serenade is needed. I feel like I need to explain this one in Beyonce Song Titles, so here we go:
I want to fall so “Drunk In Love” with “Me, Myself, and I” that I put my “Love On Top”. I want to throw my “Freakum Dress” on and “Run the World”! I want to know that I am an “Independent Woman” and that I love myself for my “Flaws and All”. Maybe one day I’ll fall “Dangerously In Love”, with someone who catches my interest at “Hello”. But until then I need to love myself like “XO” and be “Flawless”.
Yep…that about explains it all *twirls*
Ladies if your hardest decision of the day is picking nail polish colors, then what makes you think you are ready for marriage. LOL it’s ok to change your mind, that’s what our youth is for. And yes…I say youth because we’re YOUNG! Accept it. Accept that you’re young, and you’re going to make mistakes. But do you really want your marriage to be one of them? It’s ok to make impulsive decisions on simple things, just make sure your commitment for another person isn't going to change with the direction of the wind.
My favorite teacher in high school used to call my boyfriends “flavors of the week”. Lol She would laugh at the girls who dated a new person every week. And she was right. I have a friend who has never been Instagram single. And by that I mean, that she has always had a guy who she is so “deeply in love with” that they have to take a hundred caught off guard/staged photos. #girlstop It’s ok to take a selfie by yourself! Can you fall in and out of love that quickly? Im seriously asking this, can you? If you were in love with another guy last week, are you really ready to say yes to the new guy’s proposal? It’s ok if you’re not! But be genuine with your feelings.
I feel like getting engaged is the “in” thing to do. I’ve never been in love, but I believe in it. I believe that it’s a real connection between people, and the word shouldn't be thrown around so lightly. I go to a private Baptist University, and ring by spring is a REAL thing. I guess its what all the “cool kids” are doing now. I have a friend that only majored in engineering so that she would meet AND marry an engineer. Well….lol she succeeded! *snaps for her* Lol but is she happy? You have to ask yourself: Are you getting married because its something that you want? Is marriage this young going to make you happy? Or did you get married because that’s what is expected of you? Do you think that it's your "next step"? Do you think you need a partner to complete you? Again, I’m not judging. I support happiness. And if getting married at a young age will make you truly happy then do it! YOGMO! (You only get married once!) Or do you? Choose wisely! Marriage isn't a fad. You can't just throw it away when it isn't cool anymore.
I secretly hate Disney Princesses. They brainwashed us to think that we can only have a happy ending if we can successfully get prince charming to rescue us. That’s disgusting. Do you really think your purpose in life is to be rescued? Why do you strive to be a damsel in distress? What is cute about being dependent? *snaps in Z formation and yells NOTHING* Lol you can be a princess without a prince. I literally cringe when people say “he completes me”. Like WTH does that means. Are you not whole without him? Why don’t you say that he “favors you”, or that he “brings out the best in you”. But he completes you? NO! If you think that you need a man to make you whole then you’re to young to get married….
You met him at Welcome Week, and you’re engaged before finals? No, that isn’t a real thing. You DON’T know him. You haven’t seen him at his worst moments, and that’s when the real him will be revealed. We all go through cycles in life. We go through highs and lows. You need to see someone at their Beyoncé, AND accept them at their Lindsey Lohan. You need to figure out if you can accept their lows. Only time can reveal that to you. Give yourself time, don’t rush it.
What if you were meant to take a different path? What if you were meant to grow on your own, before you grow with someone else? What if stressing over your ring by spring was actually prohibiting your future? I think it’s important to leave your options open. If you don’t know what’s out there, then how do you know you’ve found the one? I love being Texas, but I know there is more to the world then Texas; and I intend to explore it. What if you weren’t meant to get your ring by spring….