By: Lexi Williams
You're waiting for him to text back. You cancel or change plans cause now they are available. Y'all never do anything that you want to do, or worse you never even suggest to do something. Girl, get your life together and stop that. By letting him dictate what is going on and when, you're submitting yourself to his rules. You need to look in the mirror, adjust your tiara, and remember that HE DOESN'T RUN YOU! Relationships are 100/100 you put in together, and if that's an issue tell him to check the tiara as you walk out the door.
"Hey you tryna come thru?" " Wana come visit me tonight Ma?" Who are you talking to?!?! I hate texts like this -_- This is not cute . This is not how to pursue someone romantically. If I wanted to "chill" I already have plenty of friends for that. Ladies, I am not sure when this became acceptable, but let's make real dates the universal standard. Can we all agree to shut down these kind of advances, and only accept men talking to us like the fabulous princesses we are *whips weave*. We deserve to be taken out. Doors to be opened. Checks to be picked up. We are better than "kicking it" at your place.
You're leaving messages and voicemails...and cooking...and driving to see him..and paying for things... Girl you are doing the UTMOST. You're a princess, not his squire! First of all, if he is content with you doing all this, then he isn't worth another second of your time. If he can't see your tiara, he doesn't deserve to bask in your presence. Second, any relationship (friendships included) needs to be even. You deserve someone who will ride to the very end and will give just as much as you!
So it's common now for people to "talk". I honestly have no idea what that means. My friends try to explain it to me, but I still don't understand. So talking is when you both kinda sorta like each other...but you aren't together like dating or like boyfriend/girlfriend... but you want to establish a new level in the relationship... but you can still be out here in these streets doing whatever? This could get very confusing because there are no universal unspoken rules for talking. We all know if someone is your boy/girlfriend, you stay faithful and all that good stuff, but for talking what are the limits? What is acceptable and what isn't? You need to make sure that what YOU want and what you will put up with is clearly stated.
We all want that perfect relationship where things just go right. You guys agree on everything, do everything to avoid upsetting each other. It seems so perfect, so easy! Why don't all relationships work like this? Because this isn't real! Relationships take work, effort, energy. Y'all won't be perfect all the time, yall will disagree, and argue, but they are worth that fight, together y'all will grow. Don't be afraid to speak your mind tell the truth and disagree. This is how lasting relationships work. Communication is key never be afraid to say how you feel.
Happy Birthday! You're 22! Congratulations! Just got your bachelors! You are at your party celebrating you greatness and all the women in your family ask you (individually of course) "So do you have a boyfriend?". You're like no, but look at this degree though! Ladies! Time is not your enemy! Yes 100 plus years ago a single woman in her 20's was branded with a big red S but not anymore. We are in the middle of our revolution and nothing can slow us down. So just because you are now a little older doesn't mean you have to settle down with the first good guy you meet. Good isn't great and if he's not great he doesn't deserve you *whips weave*
One day you may find that you are the only single person amongst friends. Girl's nights change to date nights. During group outings, you become a 3rd or even a 5th wheel. If this happens, do NOT grab the next guy you see and say "hey you're my boyfriend now". It is okay to be single! Your friends will still love you. They will invite you to hang out with them sometimes and this is great! Who doesn't want the boyfriend and the best friend to get along?! Yeah they will definitely say things like "I can't wait till we can double date" and plan out crazy scenarios about what it would be like. Your friend is happy and they just want you to feel as good as they do. Good friends want you to be happy.