First things first: I don't SETTLE for anything or anyone. *flips hair* I’m sorry, do you have a bet going on about my dating life or something? Does it annoy you that I want to focus on school and world domination, before marriage and a family? Are you bothered? These are the real questions that need to be answered! Stop asking me when I’m going to settle down. When it happens -it'll happen, if it doesn’t happen-then it doesn’t! *Kanye Shrugs* In a past post, 9 Reasons I Wouldn’t Date Me, I mentioned that I wanted to become an "I" before a "We." What I meant was that I need time to live out my life before I "settle down." I don't want to have any regrets. And I stand by that statement. So stop pressuring me to fit into your timeline. You should know better by now. *twirls away*
Stop asking me this question. I do not live for the approval of others. I will never change so that guys will like me more. For years, people have tried to convince me that I was intimidating, arrogant, and headstrong. And I refuse to accept any of those labels. My name is Amira, and I am badass. *drops mic* I really do not care if your sensitive male feelings cannot handle my badassery. It’s not my job to stroke your ego. I’ve never had the urge to date anyone who would be intimidated by a strong person. I’ve never once thought: “Oh hey, I should dumb myself down so that guy will like me.” *claps ratchetly* I. Don’t. Do. That. Ish. *flips hair* Now stop asking me questions about how I make guys feel. I'm so much more than that.
What does my face have to do with your lifestyle? No seriously, I REALLY need to know? *waits for it* I hate when guys tell me to smile. *flips table* I’m literally just walking across the street, minding my own business-and you go out of you way, to ruin my day?!?! #stopthat My face is not your problem! And I’m usually a smiley person, but do you know how hard it is to plot world domination and smile at the SAME DAMN TIME!?! This is for the girls who are constantly told what their faces should look like. It’s your face, it’s your choice.
I don’t think people understand how silly they sound when they ask this questions. It’s almost as ridiculous as when someone proudly states that they aren’t a Feminist. It’s the equivalent to asking: “Is this an equal rights thing? Is this something that says everyone should be treated fairly?” You sound ridiculous. I am a proud feminist! (I believe in intersectional feminism, but the explanation of that deserves it’s own post-so we’ll get to that soon.) So yes, I’ll call you out on your ignorant views. Yes, I’ll roll my eyes at your sexist statement. And yes, I have no problem with reading you when you’re wrong. Feminism isn’t a bad thing. It isn’t an uncomfortable thing. And if you have to question if it’s a “feminist thing”, then you’re wrong. *Kanye Shrugs*
People call me sassy on two occasions: 1) When they realize I’m funnier than they are. 2)When they realize that I’m right, and could potentially read them to filth. However, I really wish y’all would stop using that word with me. It’s shady. I feel like you’re belittling me. When a woman is strong and says what she wants in a witty tone, why is she sassy? Have you ever called a man sassy for doing the same thing? I’ve let this shady term slide for far too long. I’m not sassy. I’m funny, brilliant, and courageous-and shaky egos just can’t handle it.
*rolls eyes* I’m tired of addressing this. Stop shifting your insecurities onto others. Type A Females can have it all. Type A Females can have anything and everything they set their minds to. I can work extremely hard, have a social life, date, and have time for my family. If that is what I want, then I will do it. You can’t push your idea of bliss onto others. You may want a picket fence, and someone else may want a tent. That doesn’t make them any less happy than you. You can have it ALL girl, whatever ALL is to you. Don't put restrictions on Type A Females, we work too damn hard for that.
You can’t be bossy if you’re the boss. *drops mic* If I’m in charge, then I’m doing my job. The truth is, you would NEVER call a male with my leadership skills bossy. You would refer to them as a boss. In undergrad, there was a guy who worked just as hard as me. We both had our own business, our own brands. And people loved him, they constantly referred to him as a Boss. And I? I would get the shady twitter comments about my bitchiness. BUT, I refuse to let that stop me. So to answer your question: If BOSSY means that I never settle for anything less than what I deserve, I work harder than anyone else in the room, and I never give up on my dreams….then sure. I’ll take it.
You know, this question reveals more about the asker than the Type A Female. People have commented on me wanting attention a lot since I’ve moved to NYC. And the moment the word attention slips from their lips, I know what the real problem is. I immediately think: “watch yourself, your insecurity is showing.” Because it’s true. If my confidence, kick-ass personality, and ability to rule the room makes you question it….then you’re insecure. My ability to rule the world, shouldn’t constrain your abilities. And if you feel like my personality is attention seeking, then maybe you aren’t getting enough attention….and that isn’t really my problem. #sorrynotsorry