When I was with “The Chameleon”, I often confused nerves for butterflies. There’s a big difference. Butterflies are positive. They reveal that you’re excited to be in this individual’s presence. They show you that you have a natural spark and interest. Nerves, however, are the exact opposite. They reveal anxiety and doubt. They make you question if you’re making the right decision, and if you’re with the right one. The problem is that you feel both nerves and butterflies in your gut, and that’s confusing! *shakes head like a Polaroid picture* With the Chameleon, I was constantly nervous because I knew that at any moment it could blow up. I wasn’t happy…I was anxious. And I was waiting for something bad to happen. I just didn’t want to admit what I already knew, so I acted like they were butterflies. You can’t make nerves into butterflies….
A few seasons ago, I met an older man. He wasn’t like wheelchair, deathbed old; just like, twice my age old. Lol I was tired of dating the same type of guy, so I decided to try something new. Anyways, he was sweet, charming, and confident, which was great; he was also EXTREMELY wealthy, which was different from the scrubs that I usually dated. #noshade the problem was that he wanted me to be a stay at home and be a trophy wife. He kind of just wanted me to skip class and travel around the world with him. Now, I know you’re probably wondering why this didn’t work out. Lol when I told my mom that I denied a fourth date with someone who owned an investment bank, she questioned my sanity! Lol But I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t commit to someone who wanted me to live THEIR life. He didn’t believe in my dreams. He didn’t inspire me to want to change the world…so it was over. I want to fall for someone who makes me want to get up and be a better person. I want them to love me so much, that they love my dreams as well. I want to be inspired, and if he isn’t inspiring you, then he isn’t Mr. Right. And the moral of that story is: being a sugar baby is hardwork lol I couldn't last week.
This one is a deal-breaker. There is NO reason the person you’re with shouldn't make you feel like the one. If he doesn't show that he’s lucky to be with you, then he doesn't truly believe that he is. And that’s a problem. You deserve someone who knows how special you are.
A few years ago, a close friend of mine was dating a toxic soul. He would constantly belittle her, and laugh at her dreams. It was disgusting. It was like he had to break her down, so that she was on the same level as he was. He disguised his insecurities in jokes that were at her expense. That kind of hate will NEVER be love. If he tries to dull your shine, then you’re better off without him.
*clears throat* Now listen to me very carefully: Do NOT compete for a man. I repeat, Do NOT compete for a man. *snaps in Z formation* I dislike guys that get a sick pleasure out of making women compete for their attention. Let me explain, if you have to fight other women for a guy, then he is NOT your man! That is everyone’s man. He is officially community property. Yep….you’re pretty much dating a communal bathroom. #portapottysyndrome
The biggest mistake that you can ever make is believing that someone doesn’t have a dark-side. Everyone has a dark-side; and that is both the most beautiful, and most frightening thing about life. The problem is, that we fall for someone before we’re able to truly see that scary side of them. If he bites his nails and has a slight twitch when life is bad; then girl keep him and ride off into the sunset! Lol However, if he can’t handle his stress and transforms into The Hulk…then run. Run before you fall in too deep. If his way of dealing with hurt is hurting other people, then he isn’t Mr. Right. #runnow #farfaraway
The other night I tried REALLY REALLY hard to get in an argument with Bae. No seriously, I went off.#yesimcrazy #noregrets I was upset about not being able to see him as often as I should. So I let the problem build-up, and then I exploded. And he had the most annoying reaction…..he didn’t react -___-. Lol I was so perturbed. He waited until I was done, and then agreed with me and said he would fix it. I was already ready for a full-blown argument: my neck was ready to roll, my fingers were in snapping formation, and my eye roll was on fleek. So when he agreed with me the only thing I could say was: HUH!?! Lol he just laughed and told me that I needed to get over this arguing thing. “If we disagree, then we work it out. If you have a problem, tell me and I’ll fix it…vice versa. What do we have to argue about?” Bae is so BAE. Lol but he’s right. I realized that The Chameleon ruined my outlook on what relationship should be. The Chameleon and I would break-up to make-up. And that’s disgusting. And that’s toxic. And if that happens, then he isn’t Mr. Right. You’re just playing a game to distract you from what you already know. #stopwastingyourtime
Not all guys are horrible. Sometimes they don’t mess up. Sometimes they treat you really well. But sometimes, they just aren’t Mr. Right. I hate when people say: “Girl you better keep him, that is a GOOD MAN.” Lol Like….EXCUSE ME? *snaps in Z formation* Yes…he may be a GOOD MAN. But that doesn’t mean that he is good for you. You don’t deserve good, you deserve great! You deserve amazing! You deserve: Drunk In Love Remix with Kanye, Alanis Morsette before Joey from Full House broke her heart, Frank Ocean because that special someone BETTER be thinking about you, love. It sucks that not every nice guy will be THE GUY. Just because he’s nice, doesn’t mean that he’s Mr. Right.