I get called sensitive because people think I can’t take a “joke”. BUT I strongly believe that there is truth in every “JK”, so if I find your shade offensive, I’m going to let you know! *snaps in Z formation* It’s ok to joke around and throw shade with your friends but know who your real friends are! It’s the intention behind the shade that matters. If they intended to hurt you then they are not your friend! If they intended to belittle you, then they are not! If they intended to embarrass you, then they are not your friend! And if they are NOT your friend, I’m going to need you to twirl the hell away! *twirls away*
Frenemies have a way of knowing everything about you! And you don’t notice it for a while, but you know NOTHING about them. They absorb all the info, and store it for a later battle! It’s like they know they’re going to screw you over, so they have to be ready for war! #stopthat
I’ve said this before, but I don’t understand insecurities. I understand that other people have them, but I refuse to accept them! Frenemies are the ultimate insecurity reflectors. They look into your soul, and try to infest it with insecurities. “Your hair is too short, Your butt is too big, Your edges are non-existent!” Stop that! You hating on another person won’t make your dim life sparkle! Spread love, don’t hate! *snaps in Z formation*
4. Everything is a Competition
Success is NOT a competition! *twirls* I believe that we can all win! However, frenemies do not feel the same way. They feel the need to constantly compete with you. I used to have a frenemy, we’ll call her the insecurity magnet, and she constantly felt the need to compete with. First I found it flattering, and then I found it annoying….really annoying! So one day I just had to let her know, I said: “My name is Amira, and I will always win, you can try….but always win!” Lol I guess that didn’t work for her because she never tried it again! *Kanye Shrugs*
No one wants a chameleon for a friend! I don’t trust people who can merge into new people, with new values, and new characteristics so quickly! *snaps in Z formation* It’s fine if you’re able to get along with different groups of people! That’s a good trait! But if they flip personalities between groups then they are a frenemy, and are not to be trusted. The ones who gossip with you, may gossip about you!
I am the queen of awkward situations, And sometimes it takes me time to realize that a person is a frenemy and not a friend. However, when someone only claims you when it benefits them then they are not your friend! You aren’t a trophy to show off when someone wants to brag. A true friend will stick up for you when no one else will. Don’t waste your time on bad energy produced by toxic people! *twirls away*