You could be the one who initiated the break-up, you could’ve seen it coming for weeks, you could even be a little relieved about the ending of that relationship….but it doesn’t matter! No matter what side of the break-up you’re on, you’ll still be shocked. It could hit you hours later, or days later…but it will hit you like bad whiplash. I was reminded of how single I now am earlier this week. There was a speaker coming to campus, and I wanted to invite ex-bae to come with me. I wrote out the whole text message, and then remembered that we were no longer a thing! *face palms* #tragic #ouch Now, this is one of the most vulnerable times during your post break-up mourning. Stay strong! Ladies, you may be shocked…but don’t be stupid! It’s over!
Deny everything! Lol yea because that’s the way to true happiness! *rolls eyes* So after my split with The Chameleon, I went through the worst denial phase. I convinced myself that I didn’t see that other girl walk in the morning after in his shirt. I convinced myself that I didn’t see a new girl pull up to his place while I was getting my stuff. I even convinced myself that he wasn’t a waste of my life! I felt like I was an addict going through withdraws. Withdraws from his lies! *snaps in Z formation* Ladies, break-ups suck….no they literally suck the life out of you sometimes! However, you cannot continue to lie to yourself. Yes, you’re hurt. Yes, you really liked him. And yes, you may have had a good thing for a while. BUT, what you need to realize is that no matter what you had, it will never be the same. You’re having withdraws of the PAST. You may be able to work on building something new, but it will never be what you knew! You miss what yall had, but that’s in the past. Let go, and begin to work on yourself.
We all have a moment of weakness every now and then. Sometimes we just give in to temptation. Now, my close friends don’t even know this, But I relapsed with the Chameleon weeks after our split. I was alone in Waco, and he was the only one I felt close with. So we agreed to hangout one last time. Sometimes we just miss that guy that we used to know. Sometimes we relapse, and go back to the guy that doesn’t deserve your time. Sometimes we just give in to temptation. I’m embarrassed that I went back for a moment, but it was needed. I needed to see him. I needed to realize that he didn’t care about the tears he made me cry. I needed to realize that he didn’t care about me. And it was then that I realized that I was done. I was free.
This is when you go from sad to mad real quick! *Kanye shrugs* You begin to realize all of the hate you have for this man. I have a friend, we’ll call her the Black Widow, that finally realized all of the pain that her ex put her through! She was enraged! So…..she took everything that he left at her place (shoes, jerseys, hats, and albums) and she had a “screw him bonfire”! Lol she burnt everything! I guess it was therapeutic because after that she never mentioned him again. Lol you’re going to get angry, but handle it in a better way. Grow from your pain.
Pull out that tub of ice cream, grab your favorite sappy movie, and throw on your favorite pair of sweats. You are allowed to be sad. You are allowed to take the time you need to get over your past relationship. You are allowed to take this time to grow. HOWEVER, I do not believe in spending weeks mourning your relationship. You’re wasting time! *snaps in Z formation* Let’s be honest: Is your ex spending the same amount of time mourning? If the answer is “HELL NO” then press the reject button and move on! *twirls away*
*hair flips and twirls away* You’re finally free ladies! You’ve accepted that your past relationship is over, you’ve grown from the situation, and you are ready to move on. Now, moving on doesn’t always mean getting with someone new. I suggest using this time alone to fall madly in love with yourself. Because if you’re madly in love with yourself, then you will never settle for that mediocre love you once had. *snaps in Z formation and twirls away*