We all know this girl. She hates EVERYTHING. “Your lights are too bright, your sugar is too sweet, and your water is too wet!” This friend finds the BAD in everything. Negative energy is contagious people! Remove the toxins from your life. If you’re surrounding yourself with people who can only see the ugly in life, when are you going to have time to see the beauty in it? #literallyicant #sallywhyareyousosad
You can’t be friends with someone who wants to be you. That’s a FAN NOT A FRIEND. There’s something BEAUTIFUL about finding yourself and becoming your own person.
Last semester one of my friendships dissolved, and I couldn't be happier about it. This “friend”, we’ll name her Jackie, was toxic and chose to mentally break-down a mutual friend of ours, we’ll refer to her has "Oh Honey". Oh Honey has an optimistic bright spirit that often times cannot be broken. She’s that friend that sees the beauty in everything and everyone, and is sadly often taken advantage of/for granted because of it. Jackie was having a bad week and tensions between her and Oh Honey had been rising for some time now, so she took it upon herself to tell Oh Honey EVERYTHING that she thought was wrong with her. She basically told her that her dreams wouldn't come true, her friends were not really her friends, and optimistic attitude was unrealistic. How DARE you Jackie?!? *snaps in Z formation*. How dare you attempt to kill a light spirit when there are so few left in the world? I’m sorry that someone killed your spirit so early in life, and it hurts me that you don’t believe in yourself.... so in effect cannot believe in others, but the fact that you’re so envious of other’s bliss is sad. Envious friends are the scariest because often times they’re the hardest to spot. You originally think they’re rooting for you, but in reality they hate that you have something that they don’t. Whether it be your boyfriend, your confidence, or your great outlook on life they can’t be happy for you because someone wasn't happy for them…and that’s sad.
This is the FAKE friend. She has about 6 different groups of friends and acts differently with each them. The problem with this is that she transforms into another person daily. Honestly, you don’t know who she is! What does she like? What does she hate? Do you ever fear that she secretly doesn't like you? Well...she probably doesn't! Transformers scare me because they have the ability to be whoever they want at any time. What if their next transformation is into a liar? Now, I’m a Type A Female so naturally I think everyone has the possibility to betray you, but that’s a story for another blog. #trustissues
Now, this IS NOT the girl that you can lose touch with for a year and catch up and things will be fine. This is the friend that deserts you at your lows and is magically available at your highs. WATCH OUT for popcorn friends. If they weren't strong enough to befriend you at your Ashanti phase don’t allow them to pop up at your Beyonce! *twirls away*
Honestly, I don’t understand insecurities. Type A Females tend to think that we’re great at everything, and I truly believe that I am. I didn't know that insecurities were common until I came to college. There was an acquaintance, let’s call her the TellyTubby, which immediately hated me . I didn't really understand why, until I noticed how insecure she was. When she looks in the mirror she hates what she sees. Once I realized her insecurity I completely understood why she disliked me. I give myself a lot of compliments, very often. My answer to everything is: “ at least I’m cute”. Now, to me this is a self-declaration, but to others my compliment to myself is a diss to them. The TelyTubby would look at me and see flaws that I should be insecure about, however I NEVER will be. I’m sorry, but that’s just not who I am. I understand that you may not love yourself yet, and that makes me really sad because I can’t imagine how hard life that way is, but don’t get angry when you can’t pass your insecurities on to me. It won’t work and we can’t be friends.