I’m happy. Extremely happy. This is the first time in 6 years that everything seems to be falling into place. My big sister is healthy. My mom is proud. My little sister is excelling. I just got my Master’s Degree. I start the job of my dreams tomorrow. Life is good. And I’ll be honest, that terrifies me. The last few years have been an uphill battle. I’m used to fighting to get by. And in this moment, it seems like I may be able to just enjoy the view a bit. A friend of mine recently pointed out that I’m scared of things going too well. And I’ll be honest, I am. I’m ecstatic with everything I’ve accomplished over the past few years. And I am extremely proud of myself. However, I don’t want to become to prideful. I don’t ever want to lose touch with what it took to get here. I don’t want to forget that all of this could be taken away at any moment. When you’re a dreamchaser, there comes a moment where things start to fall in line. It will seem like you are winning, and you’ll want to get comfortable. But nothing beautiful comes from being comfortable. So take a moment. Celebrate your win, you deserve it. But don’t let the sparks and glitter deter your work ethic. Stay hungry, my friends.
I have a bad habit of checking in on old bullies. I look up their LinkedIns. I stalk their Instagrams. I skim through their tweets. For some twisted reason (that I need to grow out of), I get relief in knowing that those that taunted me were wrong. BUT- Listen to me closely: YOU WILL NEVER CATCH A HATER DOING BETTER THAN YOU! So stop. Better yet: STAAAHHHHPPPP! Criticizing another being’s bouquet won’t help yours bloom. So yes, they were mean. They were hateful. They hurt you. But you’re better than that. You’re busy. Chasing your dreams takes a ton of energy, and you’ll need all of that to rule the world.
Soooo you mad??? The other day, my supervisor asked me if I ever got angry. And it made me laugh. Because I used to not only get angry, but I used to be angry. Life was hard, and that was my way of coping with it. And then I let it go. And then I accepted my reality. And then I worked really hard to change that reality. I couldn’t be mad at life for the tough times anymore. Wrath is a heavy emotion to carry around. So I let it go. Don’t get me wrong, I still get upset. But I can no longer hold onto it the way that I used to. I’m busy. And you are to.
I’m a glutton when it comes to opportunity. I have a hard time saying no to work. I just want to do it all. I want to be a writer. I want to be a producer. I want to be showrunner. I want stick with comedy and stand up. I want to expand my site. I want to find and continue to share my voice. I want to mentor. I want change the world. That’s a lot. I know. And I’m never going to stop chasing each of those dreams. However, I need to learn to focus on one or two dreams at a time. If not, my mind will continuously race. And that’s no good. It’s ok to want to be a multi-hyphenate. If Issa can do it-you can to. But take your time. Invest in doing things well. You got this. *snaps in Z formation and throws type A female fairy dust in your direction*
At my last internship, I was surrounded by not only dreamchasers-but doers. They all worked at a huge network---the end goal for many. But they each had their own dreams and goals that they continued to invest in. They would work 40 to 50 hour weeks, and still find time to invest their crafts. And that’s beautiful. And that’s needed. Ya see, it’s easy to get comfortable. Honestly, there are a lot of people who just want to be content with life. And that’s ok. But if you are one of those people you probably aren’t reading this. The idea of being content makes me anxious. It terrifies me. My biggest fear in life is settling. I just want to reach my fullest potential. And that takes a lot of hardwork. A lot of dirty work. Work that you won’t always get credit for. Work that will drain you. But it will be worth it. So stop being lazy, you’re better than that.
It’s easier to chase the path that’s sexier. I get that. I’m not judging you for it. Lol the one thing that I’ve learned in New York is that not everything that glitters on the outside is a diamond, boo. So be careful. Don’t forget who you are. Don’t change for the sexiest thing that comes your way. There will be more. Trust me.
*grabs margarita and screams* DOLLA DOLLA BILL Y’all. So I have a secret for y’all. *leans in closer* No check is worth your dreams and well-being. *drops mic and Kanye shrugs* The other day, my best friend shared with me that he was thinking of quitting his full-time job. He already has a part-time job, and he would like to invest more time into his start-up . At first, I was worried. And then I realized he was completely right. You only get so many hours in a day. How many of those hours are you investing in your self? In your dreams? In your happiness? No judgment here. I’m still trying to find that balance. But don’t get greedy. You’ll realize that you’re only robbing yourself of your truth.