I love Taylor Swift! But let’s be honest…she speaks to our inner crazy! I listened to her album, and immediately began to blame guys for things they haven’t even done yet! She paints a familiar picture with her lyrics, and you immediately get angry. The other day I quoted Taylor Swift in a conversation with BAE:
Him: Are you upset?
Me: yes…”Cause darling I’m a nightmare dressed like a daydream”
Hahaha #iliterallycannot I’ve come to the conclusion that the amount of times you replay the song Blank Space, is a direct correlation with how crazy you are! Girls use song lyrics and movies as examples of how their life should be lived. When in reality, we can't base love off of an imagination. No One wants to date Taylor Swift Fans because we'll get upset when he: doesn't bring us a "White Horse", or when he causes the teardrops on our guitars,or even when we knew he was trouble when he first walked in....and we still go for it because we're"Fearless". Don't allow song lyrics and movie quotes to dictate your feelings; or you'll just be that crazy girl with a big imagination.
Honestly….women are the best detectives. Girls can find out ANYTHING! Now sometimes this is a pro…but I understand how the opposite sex can see it as a con. This past summer I went on a date with someone I met at a networking event. Yes…I did my research, and I found out that his ex-girlfriend recently moved to New York. So when the conversation of his ex came up at dinner, I asked how she liked New York! LOL you should’ve seen his face! And for some reason I never heard from him again *Kanye shrugs. The first thing we do after we meet someone is research. Research is smart and safe, however we are looking into someone’s past. And if you go looking for something….you will find it. Here is my take on this issue: Sometimes girls have gut feelings which cause us to inspect. I believe in going with your gut. However, if your gut is telling you to play detective with every guy...then you’re crazy. We can’t always look into the past, instead use that time to create your future with them.
Ladies…..*face palms* we have to acknowledge how closed off and unapproachable we are. It is hard for a guy set his pride aside and ask you out. If he can do that, the least you can do is lower one of your many guards. After my first date with Bae, he let me know that if I was going to act uninterested he would become uninterested. Now this comment was insulting, yet very attractive, lol but that’s a story for another post. I didn’t realize how closed off I was until he pointed it out. And yes….he pointed all of it out! He mentioned how far I sat back in my seat every time he leaned in to speak. He mentioned how I would purposely say things that avoided mentioning him in my future. And he mentioned how awkward my hug goodbye was. And after this list he slid in how close I was to being friend zoned. I have a brick wall up, and I think everyone should immediately accept it. But the truth is, that they shouldn’t have to. I understand that the wall is up for a reason, but we’re punishing people who have done nothing to cause the distance. Ladies….this wall you put up for protection is a red flag. It signals hurt…and sometimes hurt leads to craziness. *sips margarita* You may be crazier than you think.
This girl was also featured in “The 6 types of Friends to Avoid”, but could you imagine dating her? People have insecurities, I can understand that. However, when you allow your insecurities to control your relationship…then you have a problem! *coughs*A CRAZY Problem *coughs* I had a friend in high school who would make up the girls that her boyfriend would cheat on her with. Like she created imaginary sidelines for him. #literallyicannot Every other week it would be a new girl, who coincidentally had something that she felt she was lacking. One week it was a fictional mistress named Carrie Anne. She said that he must’ve kissed Carrie Anne because her GPA was higher than hers. That’s when I realized she was crazy! Lol Her poor boyfriend! Insecurities are sadly more common than many want to believe or accept.
Guys may want to date someone that is like their mom….but no one wants to date their mom! This is a problem I think many Type A Females have. Sometimes we just fix things for people, when they don’t want them to be fixed. And sometimes we tell people to do things, when they don’t want to be told what to do. We want to take care of those that we love, however we are not their mother. Stop nagging. Stop ordering. And low-key….we need to stop fixing. I’m sure that its beautiful to have traits that resemble a mother…but you will NEVER be their mother. That’s kinda sick, and very crazy!
I like to play traveler. I roam around the country, seeking adventures and new knowledge. I understand that this is not ideal for a relationship, but I can’t help it. The Traveler is a free spirit, and this can be beautiful….except for when their heart is free too. No one wants to date someone that cannot connect to present feelings. Your free spirit makes others feel crazy! Travelers fear pain, so they avoid real emotion.
*neck rolls AND snaps in Z formation* I have a guy friend that admits to loving crazy women! I’m talking bust the window out of your car, we are never ever ever getting back together, I’m not crazy I’m just a little unwell….CRAZY WOMEN! He finds it exciting when a girl will lose her cool over him. Well…he is one of a kind. Not everyone is going to put up with your craziness…so choose your battles carefully ladies! I have an old acquaintance who was dating an older guy. After they split, she decided it was smart to break into his work email; and attempt to ruin his career. She sent explicit emails to his boss, and horrible messages to his co-workers. This obviously did not work, and now she has a broken heart AND reputation. Ladies…crazy isn’t cute. That is all! *snaps in Z formation*.
I bet it's beautiful when two souls successfully become one. BUT it's absolutely disgusting seeing one and a half souls. It breaks my heart when I see a girl become her boyfriend. When she loses her identity and drifts into his shadow. Who wants to date themselves??? I doubt anyone is begging you to transform into their clone. Be yourself. Allow yourself to be loved for who you are...not who you think they want you to be. Love yourself unconditionally first.
I really liked my prom date. I now know that he didn't feel the same way. I've told this story before from my point of view, so now i'll tell it from his. He is a nice person. So maybe early on he saw something he wanted to explore in us; and later those feelings just vanished away. I was young and hurt. I didn't accept the signs of disinterest that he was throwing my way. Believe people when they show you who they really are. No one wants to date someone who can't take a hint.
This is me. I can't tell you exactly what I want out of a relationship. Some days I just want someone to carry my luggage. Some days I want someone to talk to. And Some days I just want to be alone. Now, I probably wouldn't date me. Nothing is more frustrating than dealing with a girl that doesn't know what she wants. It's not fair that we get upset at a guy for talking to another girl, when we told him we weren't looking for a relationship. Be honest. Say what you want, and if you don't know what you want then say nothing at all! I feel like silence is better than a lie.